December 17, 1955
Dear Paul Wiechmann and Pearl Yates,
Tomorrow, you will be married. You are in your mid-twenties. You are both probably nervous, wondering what the future will bring. Is he the One? Is she the One? These questions are normal, for all young couples on the eve of such an important day.
Paul, you've been a mechanic in the Air Force. You're stationed in Spokane, Washington, far away from your native South Dakota.
Pearl, you've got a job in Spokane, a family nearby that you love and plenty of friends. You both come from large families that love you. Tomorrow you will embark on a journey that will span at least five decades.
It won't always be easy. In fact, there will be many lean times. You will return to South Dakota so Paul can work with his brother on the family farm. Pearl will be homesick. Paul will work hard, very hard. Pearl, you will stay home with the kids for awhile but you will eventually "work outside the home" and you will become a comfort for many.
After a short stint of living in Wagner, South Dakota (population 1600) you will move to the farm six miles north and that's where you will stay.
There will be children. Seven of them. Six will come in a bunch. In fact, two will be born in 1957. Peggy and Pam. Those two girls will be followed by another daughter, Paula and your first son, Pat. By the end of 1964, two more daughters will be part of the clan, Penny and Piper.
The farm house is big but will always seem a bit crowded.
The children will grow throughout the 60's and mid-70s and just before the oldest is ready to leave home, you will be surprised (and the rest of your family amazed) by the birth of a seventh child, Perry.
Your children will resemble you (and each other) on the outside but they will be seven very different personalities, with strengths and weaknesses. Sometimes they will frustrate you. Many times, actually. No family is perfect but your children will amaze you and you will love each of them, unconditionally.
Most of your children will go to college and all of them who graduate will do so from South Dakota State University. Two of your daughters will marry SDSU alums, planting a fever for the Jackrabbits that is difficult to match in any family.
In the 80's grandchildren will be born. One, then another, then another and another. Some of your children will leave the family farm and even the state of South Dakota but four will remain relatively close nearby and the others will visit the home base as often as possible.
The reunions will be joyful gatherings, filled with laughter, telling stories and remembering. In the 90's, you will begin remodeling the house, a project that will seem like it never ends. That's the way it is with houses that were built in the early 1900s.
The turn of the century will bring graduations of the older grandchildren and then they, too will begin to marry. Great-grandchildren will be born.
You will travel. You will go on cruises and drive to the far corners of the United States including Alaska.
In 2005 you will celebrate FIFTY years of marriage with a wonderful party. Your children will celebrate your love and commitment to each other. Each of them will view the event with a pride and admiration.
In 2009, you will still be well and happy and strong. You will still live in the house where Paul grew to be a man. It's not the same house, but it is definitely a Home.
Your family, the one born 54 years ago on December 18, 1955, will remain solid. This is just a little piece:
Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad! I love you and want everyone to know!
/p